Love Letters to Humans (no. 94) — on Containing Boundaries, a thank you note

A practice in boundaries: To simply witness someone else’s experience without layering in our assumptions about what it must be (or should be) like for them. How beautiful to be with someone as they are, without the interference of our projections.

Protective boundaries are wonderful for keeping out what is not ours, and there’s more. Containing boundaries serve our relationships by allowing us to keep to ourselves what is not someone else’s.

Today I give thanks for the rare beings in my life who listen so beautifully, so presently, and with such clear boundaries around what is theirs that I have room to experience what is mine.

Thank you for showing me what it means to connect deeply without enmeshment, to listen deeply without getting in the way or taking on judgments that do not belong to me, to take responsibility for the energy and feelings I bring to my experience of another, to make more room.

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Relationship is. Right relationship nourishes.